I'm guilty. We're all guilty. Every day from the moment we wake up, we live our lives caring what other people think of us. Our hands are chained. So is our soul.
Eventually our actions, appearances, and lives become molded by how we think other people perceive us. How are these pants going to make me look? What will my colleagues think if I spoke out? Are those people talking shit behind my back? If I take this job, what will my friends and family think of me?
Just writing that paragraph alone gave me a headache. It's exhausting. It's dreadful. It has to stop. Living a life that follows the ideal notions of what other people think is a terrible way to live. It makes you become the spineless spectator who waits for other people to take action first. It makes you become a follower. Worst of all, it makes you become someone who doesn't take a stand for anything.
Today is the last day we live a life dictated by others. Today is the day we stop giving a F@$%.
Stop Caring About What Others Think, and Get Back Your Self-Respect
You often worry family or friends might not approve of something, people are talking about you…
No One Really Cares
Believe it or not, we're not that special. We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us. But the truth is—those people are thinking the exact same thing. No one in today's "smartphone-crazed" society has time in their schedule to think more than a brief second about us. The fact of the matter is, when we do have time get our thoughts straight, we're too busy thinking about ourselves and our own shortcomings—not others.
Unless you have done something that directly affects another person or their life, they are not going to spend much time thinking about you at all.
Even when provided with the blatantly obvious opportunity to judge someone, people are still thinking about how others may perceive them. Once you understand that this is how people's minds works, it's a big step towards freedom.
You Can't Please Everyone
It's impossible to live up to everyone's expectations. There will always be people—no matter what we say or how we treat them—that will judge us. Whether you're at the gym, at work, taking the train, or even online playing PUBG. Even now it's happening. You will never be able to stop people from judging you, but you can stop it from affecting you.
So Stop Being a People Pleaser...
If you've always felt a compulsion to meet everyone else's needs before your own, it's hard to…
Think about the worst thing that could possibly happen when someone is judging you or what you're doing. I guarantee that chances are—nothing will happen. Absolutely nothing. No one is going to go out of their busy lives to confront us, or even react for that matter. Because as I mentioned before, no one actually cares. What will happen is that these people will actually respect you for claiming your ground. They may disagree with you, but they'll respect you.
Start standing up for what you believe in—causes, opinions, anything.
You're going to have people that disagree with you anyways, so why not express how you truly feel? I've learned that it's better to be loved by a few people you care about, than to be liked by everyone. These are family, friends—the people who love you for who you are, and the people who will be there for you during your worst times. Focus on these people. They're the only people that matter.
When we start to attract and associate with the same people that share our weaknesses —we're stuck. We stop growing, because there's no one to challenge us to be better. We start thinking that this is the norm and we remain comfortable. This is not a place you want to be.
The World is big. Choices are limitless. So is people.
Choose wisely..
Because You Reap What You Sow..
The world is already full of people who obey the status quo. But the people who don't give a F@$% are the ones that change the world.
Be the latter. Start living life the way you want, be fearless like you once were as a child, and always, always stand up for the truth. Someone has to..
