Do you know how capable of love and greatness we are? Are we aware of the beauty we carry in that vulnerable heart of ours? Tons of love and light lurking underneath that luminous soul.
We're are a real masterpiece. We're what others call “one in a million”. We're someone who loves deeply. We're someone who cannot imagine their life without love. We're someone who is honest and outspoken. Someone who believes in the good in people.
You are you, and you don’t have to apologize for it. Since when it is a sin to care? Since when it is a sin to wear your heart on the sleeve? We act like we’ve forgotten our worth.
We chase after people who don’t appreciate the things we give them. We chase after people who do not FIGHT for us.
How do you know when to stop giving someone another chance?
When it hurts enough. That’s the short answer. It’s also the long answer.
Well, actually, let me rephrase. If you’re giving someone second chance, they have an opportunity to prove themselves and earn your trust back. If you’re giving someone third or more chances, it means they’re breaking your boundaries because they know they can get away with it.
But back to the original point: You don’t say what this other person’s offense is, but it’s clearly hurting you a great deal.
To give people another chance is a very human thing. Because even though it’s not in our best interests usually, it’s still an eminently hopeful thing. To give someone another shot means you still see their potential, the way things could be. Or the way things used to be, if they were once good.
Unfortunately or fortunately for both of you, you live here, the way things ARE, not in some rose-tinted future or hazy past.
To that end, it’s time to start setting some boundaries. Do some self-reflection about what you want from this relationship.
When learning to create better boundaries, it’s best to start small. Try saying “no” to something you don’t want to do. Don’t apologize or offer excuses. Just say no. Also be aware of feelings of discomfort and resentment that come up with the person in question they’re signs that your boundaries are being tested and you shouldn’t ignore them.
It’s up to you to treat yourself right and to go find the person who feeds your soul, who radiates your beauty, who understands how you want to be loved and who reciprocates. Don’t be afraid to search for the person who lets your soul shine and radiate in whichever colors it wants to.
Above all, trust yourself. If something feels crappy, it’s probably because it is. And when it hurts bad enough, you’ll act on it.