As C.S. Lewis so eloquently put it: "Isn't it funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back, everything is different...?"
It's true.
Sometimes people around you change and there's nothing you can do about that.
One of the saddest things to realize is that certain people are just not who they used to be, that people you once considered best friends are now, at best, strangers.
Isn't that what always seems to happen? You and your friends are headed into the real world, ready to take on anything that comes your way, but when push comes to shove, you realize some of your friends are nowhere to be found?
Do you find yourself thinking it's your fault they aren't around anymore? Or do you think their actions have somehow sabotaged your relationship?
The sad reality is most of the time, the dissolution of your friendships wasn't due to either of these reason.So how do you come to terms with people who just are no longer who they used to be?
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Figure out who you are without them.
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Recognize it's not a personal attack; they're just lost.
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Stop helping people when it's hurting you.
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Realize that judging others is a waste of your time.
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Accept that some people were meant to be in your life for a moment, not a lifetime.
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Don't spend all your energy on trying to make things work when they clearly won't.
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Learn when people are being fake so you can teach yourself to be more real.
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Acknowledge that it's better to have one real friend than 100 fake ones.
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Comprehend that the lessons these people teach are more valuable than they are.
People change, those that are close they turn to enemies and those that are strange, they turn to family. Whatever happens, remember one thing, life moves on.